• baguettefish@discuss.tchncs.de
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      12 days ago

      in my entire playthrough I’ve never seen the perspective switch to somebody else, which is very boring but also focuses all my attention on one character

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        12 days ago

        You have to use the bed at night (or during the day for a debuff if you don’t have the night owl characteristic), there’s a random chance a dream sequence will initiate and give you other POVs.

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          actually i just (16 hours ago, just put the two things together in my head) had my first dream that I’m aware of where i possessed someone else’s viewpoint, so being aware of that possibility is definitely important. first time being a woman too.

  • Rooty@lemmy.world
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    12 days ago

    Typically if you go looking for a partner with a checklist you’ll be disappointed. Nobody wants to be graded like a piece of pork.

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          11 days ago

          We don’t snugly clothe dicks to the degree we do tits. Bras has to fit fairly snug to function correctly and that requires some level of precision. About the only thing that is snugly worn on the penis are condoms, which are very elastic.

          I can think of one standard for dick size, and it’s from NASA. Apollo astronauts wore external catheters for much of the mission, that is, a condom with a hose at the end for collecting urine. These came in three sizes but none of the astronauts would accept “small” or even “medium” so they were sized Large, Giant and Humongous.

          Beyond that, like most male body parts, it is simply measured in inches.

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            11 days ago

            This reminds me of how when I go shopping for eggs in the supermarket, they are sold in sizes of Large, X-Large, and Jumbo. Nobody wants to face the humiliation of buying a carton of small eggs.

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            Bras has to fit fairly snug to function correctly and that requires some level of precision.

            Eh, it can be argued that the “function” of a bra is to allow women to adhere to the beauty standards set for them by men.

            That being said, they still aren’t made that precisely, cup sizes are kinda all over the place depending on brand, and even the band sizes (which are kinda sorta close to the actual inch measurement of your ribcage, but not quite) are variable. That’s why bras have adjustable straps everywhere, and why if you haven’t been professionally fitted for one, your bras probably don’t fit you right.

          • Fizz@lemmy.nz
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            10 days ago

            Men’s underwear does have sizes for the dick pouch and they are small medium and large.

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            11 days ago

            Also that would be expecting a level of engagement with clothing that most men simply don’t have.

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        Yeah, but we’re discussing relationships not kink, you can be into some pretty hardcore stuff and still be hurt emotionally by being treated poorly by a partner

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    12 days ago

    People be like “society has imposed unrealistic expectations on everyone about every aspect of their lives causing irreparable damage to the self and the society that created the issue” and they’re just some hairless ape.

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    11 days ago

    I’d love to see this dude that actually thinks that anymore. Today’s trend is to just give up on material life like a zen buddist, but be a nihilist.

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    I blame the fact that every guy around their mid 20s has a big-thigh male friend with a small waist that watches anime and plays videogames but still has enough time to introduce a random niche hobby like archery every other week that can be both your cool uncle and a therapist.

    How do they do that? Nobody knows.

    Meanwhile every other friend and family member seemingly flips a coin to decide if they wanna fall into the racist pipeline every 2-4 years in US depending on how south you live.

  • Soup@lemmy.world
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    I remember a post where a guy was like “why does she get all dressed up to go out with her friends but with she just wears sweatpants?” and the “with me” clip had bro in basketball shorts, a t-shirt, and a baseball hat. One of the comments said something along the lines “she’s putting as much effort in as you are.”

    Too many of us dudes have such garbo fashion sense they seem to believe that wearing a t-shirt without holes and their “nice shorts” is enough to start complaining about women and it’s just sad.

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      12 days ago

      I’d love to dress better, but at my height and gender expectations, best I can do is a good pair of jeans and a nice t-shirt. Would love to do better 😥

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        What does that even mean? I’m 6’-5” and only 175-180lbs and I’m not flush with cash but I still get by just fine.

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          I can’t easily find new clothes or shoes as they are not big enough. I can fing but like never what I’d like. Thrift stores? Just forget it. So jeans & t-shirt it is. 6’6 95kilo, maybe where you live there is an abundance of clothes fitting me but here it sure isn’t.

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            I’m in Canada. We’re basically the same height but you wear, what, an XL? And I got size 16 feet, so while I understand the struggle I also know that I can definitely get shoes that work(Steve Madden makes shoes that don’t look at all weird when sized up).

            If you’re in Europe I’d be amazed if the Germans or Scandanavians haven’t addressed this issue. If you’re in East Asia well that’s gunna be interesting for sure, and if you’re in Africa I really just don’t have enough info to be of any use.

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              I’m Swedish, and the authorised height stops at 1m92 (I jest, but that’s basically how it works, everything must be ‘lagom’). I live in France so that doesn’t help of course, but when I go home, I don’t get lucky either.

              My jeans size is like 34x36 BTW 😁 Or is it 36x34 …

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                Waist goes first for jeans. I’m a ~33”x34”. My height is largely in the torso so jeans are a little easier, but 36” inseam is generally not too hard to find. I have good luck with Levis.

                Getting longer pants is straightfoward enough but man I try to find shirts and stuff and it’s just rough. We have a brand in Canada called Eddie Bauer, maybe it’s elsewhere too I have no clue, and they’re awesome for coats and stuff.

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      12 days ago

      I actually really like when my so dresses like shit. I don’t know why I find it so hot. Then we dress up for a dress code restaurant, come home and wear clothes with holes from parrots chewing the shoulders.

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      12 days ago

      Well in fairness men’s fashion is essentially t-shirt or suit & tie. There really isn’t the equivalent of what women get, that’s why all the fashion designers make dresses, because men don’t get any effort put into their fashion.

      What is the male equivalent of dress shopping?

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        Well in fairness men’s fashion is essentially t-shirt or suit & tie.

        T-shirt is fairly versatile but men’s fashion is not that limited.

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        I mean, that’s really not true. Just look at the various male fashion advice communities, streetwear culture, etc. There’s a huge variety in different styles of shirts, outerwear, layering, footwear, accessories, and pants. Hell, even t-shirts and denim have a huge variety in style and quality.

        There’s massive cultural pressure for women to be fashionable and wear the “right” clothes, a pressure men by and large don’t have to deal with. Companies are one of the primary drivers of this pressure by manipulative marketing practices that that convince many women that they need the latest trends and fashions to be keep up.

        All of it is bullshit meant to keep people spending money, ultimately. Fashion should be a form of personal expression and personality and by no means requires purchasing new clothing all of the time.

    • BeeegScaaawyCripple@lemmy.world
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      gonna be honest. i have eclectic (okay weird) but pretty sharp fashion sense. going out with my wife is always an excuse to dress up. i don’t understand this “wearing a t-shirt without holes and their “nice shorts” is enough to start complaining about women” but i’m fucking vain

      • Soup@lemmy.world
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        There are a lot of dudes who basically just think that if they meet a bare minimum then they’re owed something. You can see it a lot just walking around and will probably notice it more as the percentage of chain restaurants and parking lots in the area goes up.

        You and I might put more effort in but how we are doesn’t change how they are.

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        Dressing up as a guy is kinda hard, the widely accepted options tend to have much less variety than women’s fashion. You pretty much have to get weird to make it a little fun, and that’s risky.

        I guess that actually makes it easy to dress up, it’s just depressingly boring.

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          the acceptable shirts that come out of most clothing stores the last decade or two have been so godsdamned boring. i do most of my clothing shopping at thrift stores now and look for stuff that’s easily tailored because that’s the only place i’ll find interesting fabric. well, there and nordstrom off the rack. i saw a jacket there a decade ago that i should’ve bought that was too fucking expensive and i have regretted not buying it to this day. i should have spent that $700 i have had at least $700 of regret by now.

          edit: i don’t have a lot of regrets but this is one of them.

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            One of the nicest jackets that I own was manufactured in the 1960s and has had quite the interesting life before I got it.

            It’s totally impractical since it has the shallowest pockets you’ve ever seen. It will absolutely not hold a phone.

        • BeeegScaaawyCripple@lemmy.world
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          that depends on your opinion. i have a bright bright bright coral linen blazer i’ve fallen in love with lately and i wear whenever the weather is cool enough. pair it with a loud enough patterned shirt and it’s fantastic.

          my bio family jokes that they find ugly stuff on the discount rack and when i put it on it looks good because it matches, but they just don’t have the confidence to pull this stuff off.

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      What is hilarious is when people come into an interview like a scrub. I understand you spent four hundred dollars on those basketball sneakers. But they’re basketball sneakers. You didn’t get the job because you obviously make bad decisions.

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        If the job isn’t representative or dealing with customers, fuck off with fashion sense or pay for the uniform.

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          The job is specifically greeting customers. And we do pay for their outfits. And jackets. And rain jackets. And winter jackets. And hats. And umbrellas. And everything else. But we dont dress people for interviews. And we don’t hire people who show they have no common sense.

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        And to that end, dressing up nice enough for interview at most places shouldn’t even be that high a bar. Dark jeans and a nice button up, even one with patterns honestly, will probably be enough. After that, though, most jobs pay like shit and treat people worse than that so if they expect me to show up in a suit and jerk them off they can get bent.

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          I would personally avoid jeans but a polo and khakis would be 100% acceptable. I wouldn’t discount someone in dark jeans. I had someone show up in designer ripped jeans. Just no, dude. This is a job interview.

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      Also, are we talking about being at home, or going out on a date with the guy? If she’s chilling at home of course she’s gonna be in fucking sweatpants. Do you expect her to look like a TikTok influencer 24/7? Hell, even if it was an outing, if you’re going to a regular, mom-and-pop diner or some shit, I also wouldn’t expect someone to dress mega fancy, especially if you’re already with them.

      But yeah, don’t wear a plain ass T-shirt and shorts to a nice date and expect your partner to always be ready to model for a fashion brand…

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    If they were just some guy it would be ok. In my female experience guys like this are overweigh, jobless, don’t make a single effort at anything and are convinced women own him to be perfect

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      I think the Venn diagram of guys who want a big tiddy girlfriend with a tiny waist who plays video games and is caring towards them overlaps not only with overweight and jobless but also fit and employed and everything in between. What you’re referring to “don’t make a single effort at anything and are convinced women [owe] him to be perfect” is borderline abusive. You are insulting other overweight and jobless folk with your generalization.

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      this, but somehow a buch of them manage to rope someone way higher tier into dating them. I worked a few years at a place that employed a lot of women escaping abusive relationships. the boss was basically everyone’s mom. All top tier beauties but somehow got only the skeeziest and lazy men.

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        I’m not saying it’s all of them, but if you talk to some of these women they have this weird idea about masculinity, it’s all dressed up but when you strip it all back it’s all toxic.

        Stuff about how it’s unmanly to have a pet cat, and how they should drive a big expensive car, and should pay for everything. I have no idea where they get this stuff from but if that’s how they think, then they are only going to get a scumbag man because they’re the only met that actually conform to that view of masculinity.

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      Seen a lot of men like this with the “ideals” except they have a good job and think it’s a crowning achievement. They also often want their wives to have good jobs and to have separate accounts and expenses? So they want a perfect, pretty, petite wife who’s smart, has a great job, but also cooks, cleans, takes care of the house, and their children. What do they bring to the table? Not the looks, money or house help. Their ✨shining personality ✨? Don’t worry ladies this alpha nice guy’s on the market & just around the corner, lucky you!

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        My only requirements are that she’s as depraved and unabashedly slutty as I am and I’m attracted to her.

        Well I guess also that she doesn’t sponge off me.

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    Girlfriend requirements: being female (optional) , liking each other.

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    Well in return I can be a big tiddy bf who watches anime and plays video games but not too much and can be her mom and her therapist

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    Girls be like “where’s my 6 ft+ millionaire bf who also likes to stay home, cuddle, read feminist literature, and does the dishes and laundry without being asked”, meanwhile they’re a single mom with 30 extra pounds and crippling student loan debt.

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      You see this a lot in the comment sections of short videos complaining about men. The expectations are wild. Of course they’re unrepresentative, but these women clearly are out there.

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      If you really wanted to express that this goes both ways:

      In the post, it’s “meanwhile, they’re just some guy”. Why not say “they’re just some girl” instead on bashing on single mothers?

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      Problem is having unrealistic expectations regardless of who you are. You can have preferences but don’t objectify.

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        okay, but why do you suppose he described the proverbial “welfare queen” as soon as someone posted a meme about a thing men do?

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          What part of their description made you think they were describing “the proverbial” welfare queen?

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          Because both genders do it and it’s only fair to point out that it’s not only the one in the post, exactly as valid as if that comment was the OP and someone commented about men doing it

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        I would say that their comment was perfectly in line with the post lol

        it goes both ways