• prettybunnys@sh.itjust.works
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    1 day ago

    My dude the majority of humanity is lacking in a large portion of emotional regulation capabilities because of our parents, and their parents, and traumas, and wars.

    I assure you we could watch anyone and judge them for their inadequacies and shortcomings.

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      1 day ago

      I assure you we could watch anyone and judge them for their inadequacies and shortcomings.

      Why would you want to do that? that sounds mean and cruel.

      Just because everything is fucked and shit right now doesn’t mean we have to add to the pile or jump into the pit. When I feel cranky I don’t attack my friends, but instead I share with them that I’m feeling cranky and they usually help me by extending patience and understanding. It’s not judgement on my part to extend the same courtesy. Tell me when you are off, so I can help you. But being hungry doesn’t include a pass from becoming an asshole to everyone around you, that’s unacceptable.

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          1 day ago

          Setting a boundary is not an offense on others, nor is it judgement. Only entitled people feel attacked by other people protecting themselves. Being understanding and kind doesn’t mean being a doormat. Just because a boundary upsets you doesn’t mean it is ok to trespass it.