I actually agree with you, in that I’ve been where you are and it is extremely difficult. There has been more pushback recently against the idea that very young kids are magically entitled to unfettered device access. The incentives are misaligned because big tech just wants more and more pairs of eyes. They don’t really care about the underlying harms. However they have built better parental controls recently. I have to credit Apple (extremely reluctantly) because their controls and reporting seem to be better.
However you are right, there will always be some other kid at school with a completely unlocked device because his parents are idiots and pay zero attention.
Can’t wait for Wish.com to release DickGargle 3.8-Ultra1