Your point is? No one is forced to listen to your opinions but you aren’t prevented from having them if you run your own instance.

“Lemmy” can’t ban people, people managing an instance can ban people. And yes it is ok to ban people for breaking the rules of a community or even an instance. If you have a problem with the rules on an instance go and create your own, that’s one of the core reasons Lemmy is federated.

“That’s out too? Dish soap it is then.”

Leaf soup