At my work we jokingly dismiss each other, someone will stand up and say to someone else “hey, John, you can go home now” as though they are the boss, and then that person will say to someone else “hey, Jane, you can go home” and so on. Until we are all dismissed for the day.

Yeah I’m not worried about it, more just find it interesting.

I sometimes wonder if it’s nature trying to breed us to average height. Like, I’m tall, my ex was around my height and our kids (girls) are around our height, only one taller than me though.

My mom was kinda short and my dad very tall, so their kids were tall but none of us as tall as my dad.

So, like, if you are already medium to tallish, no need to find a tall partner, but if you are short and want medium to tallish kids, you will need a tall partner to do that. And if you are quite tall, maybe you don’t want your kids to be even taller, right? At some point that can be problematic. So then you are attracted to shorter partners.

I’m kinda tall for a woman, and swear to God the only women I’ve ever felt attracted to at all were taller than me. With guys I don’t really care, around my height is good, have dated guys shorter than me, but guys my height do outweigh me and are much stronger than I am. I consider myself very heterosexual but do sometimes wonder if it is as simple as liking “bigger/stronger than me” and don’t live in a world with a lot of women taller than me? Probably just straight, not hung up and generally only respond at all to men, all women can see when another woman is attractive but I really don’t know.

Sure, but happy satisfied people aren’t usually the ones who progress humanity forward in art or sport. I wouldn’t describe it as neurodivergence, but do think it’s the people who have a need that most of us don’t.

I don’t really think so, unless you have a very broad definition of neurodivergence. In which case, yeah sure most all art is made by people who are not balanced happy individuals, now too. If you don’t have that black hole of need inside you, you don’t need to fill it.

HG Wells

Jules Verne

Mary Shelley

L Frank Baum

Heinlein

They seem like regular minded people just brilliant. I don’t think of anyone as a “normie” though, my definition of normal is either it has to be broad enough to encompass a majority of the population, or it’s meaningless because nobody is identical to anyone else, all broken in our own way and strong in our own way.

I do schedule my wellness visits when leaving my wellness visits so yes, a year in advance. Just in case, and so that I will do it. But can get in for urgent care if needed, same or next day. And stuff like prescriptions they can often do online without an appointment if it’s an ongoing one. About a month wait for non urgent specialist care, sometimes two-three (that is often because I refuse to travel to outlying areas though, so wait for a local appointment)

And I do NOT live in any sort of medical desert. Lots of doctors offices here, probably more than most similar size cities. Several hospitals, a medical college, so many doctors.

It’s not worse than I remember it being in the 90s, I remember 6 months wait for dermatologist, months for pediatric orthopedic (there is an orthopedic urgent care though, which has saved us from going to emergency at least ten times) . I remember thinking back then that people who said “but in Canada they have to wait for care” were idiots, we wait here too!

Honestly one of the things I’m grateful for, is having had both rich family and very poor family. The thing about actually rich people is they don’t care, in my experience they are pretty gracious as long as you are relaxed. Dress to the absolute minimum of what is required (I’ve gotten away with $20 dresses and good shoes and nobody batted an eye.)

If you can keep the clothes, get stuff you like, negotiate for a spa day, get your hair done, keep the style very, very simple and outshine them all! You can do it!

Or you could decline the invite, if you aren’t interested in a fancy dress ball.

Slide the seat back some, dude!

Ok, if this is not a BDSM arrangement, tell him to fuck off. Respect is earned, not taken. I did make my kids say Ma’am and Sir to waiters and cashiers and teachers. Not me, we are family.

If you need an adoptive online family, I’ve so many kids, what’s one more?

If it is a BDSM arrangement, wow that is hot.

Is your dad the speaker of the house Mike Johnson?

I read books to read what’s inside them, not to save them forever as objects. So chaotic evil it is. Unless there is a receipt handy.

It really depends. Setting aside taste (some guys really are unpleasant tasting, but not most of them) - if your guy runs less hot than you, a blowjob to completion means one less opportunity to do something for both of you. So it can feel like: oh getting all turned on by it, then it’s over and you are left hanging for days while he generates enough sex drive to have sex again. That was the issue with my ex, who was a once a week guy. Husband now, we are pretty equal and it’s not a big deal. If I do this one morning, after work we can still fuck.

Mostly agree with you on it being a fun thing to do though, you are right about that. It’s not a chore or a drag, just sometimes frustrating.

Well, no. What happens with us is that either one of us says “want to go to X restaurant?” Far enough ahead of time that the other person hasn’t got some set idea of what they want this evening . So 90% of the time we just get “sure, thanks, yes”. And maybe 10% of the time a “no, but could we go to Y?”. Or a “No, I need to cook the chicken or it will go bad” And it’s literally never gone farther than that.

If my husband did what you are describing above I would be confused. Like if he said “we will go to $restaurant” like that I would assume he had a desperate craving for it and would say yes, as it would be uncharacteristic. But if it kept happening I would ask him WTF?

Garlic toast! Yes that’s usually on white bread here, I use a baguette to make it.

Just make it. I don’t buy bread and haven’t in years. It’s not saving me any money but flour, salt, and water are the only ingredients in most of my breads and they are as good as the fanciest bakery rustic sourdough. And easy as heck to make, sourdough is so forgiving.

At least he doesn’t say it out loud.

Agreed.

Not to excuse the relentless flow of money upward, but the two times we had to do (temporary) pay cuts in my career, it was 10-15% for employees, paid back eventually, and 35-50% for executives, not repaid. At two different companies. So I do know at least sometimes it’s done that way.

I can’t see well through those 3D glasses. Not headache they just don’t work right; I have a lot of trouble with binoculars as well, was profoundly nearsighted so maybe that’s a factor. It’s fine, except for the bits of action movies that seem to have been filmed for 3d and look strange in the 2d version.

I do have depth perception in real life just not through those glasses, though I haven’t tried in the last few years.