This is not the definition of paternal at all.
I am not asking for a rational response, I am asking for a respectful response, and my partner expects the same from me.
It’s fine if my partner is angry or sad or anything else, but it’s not okay to make you feel bad for a genuine question and trying to help.
It is possible to be emotional and respectful but what you described in your OP isnt that.
Your initial point is that the partner already expressed their point clearly and that’s the other partner (the man), that didn’t listen.
To which I responded that the onus is on the pissed person to communicate well the issue, not the person listening (assuming that both are acting on good faith).
It’s easy to say " I am mad because of X" regardless of the situation, instead of playing mind games. Or “I am mad about X and I don’t know how to express it”. Simple, respectful and a starting point to resolve the conflict.
This is not coming from a paternal or punitive angle, this is just proper communication. If you can’t express why you are upset to someone and act like the meme, this is not acceptable and respectful.
I don’t escalate, but I tell my partner that her behavior is not acceptable, and she does the same to me.
Being pissed isn’t a free pass to be a dick to your partner. If they are pissed and they come to you, then they don’t get to be pissy with you.
If they can’t do that, they can go take a five and come back after. It’s the same thing we teach children.
In the case I fucked up, I apologize and make amends. Again, it isn’t a free pass for my partner to berate me.
And my partner expects the same from me.
There was a time when CEO actually took responsibility for the fuck ups of the company they were the head of.
Nowadays, we get the same fucking PR speak, no CEO is held accountable. They give a platitude, get their golden parachute and go be a fucking parasite in another company to do the same shit.
The only time they are a little bit accountable is when they fuck over other rich people.
If my partner is having an issue they can’t properly express, how I am supposed to somehow magically know what they need? That’s some Disney shit.
If my partner is upset, I will 100% try to find a solution with them. But if they get mad at me for not understanding what they feel because they don’t understand it themselves, you bet that I won’t let that roll.
And it’s also okay to say “I’m upset and I don’t know why exactly”. It’s a starting point to resolve the issue.
Codependency. Lots of people can’t stand to be by themselves so they’d rather be in a terrible relationship than being alone.
You look them in the eye and kiss them tenderly. It might be their kink.
Not only that, but all the political game involved in the academia is mental.
I don’t even have to click the link to know what it is.
I haven’t laughed like that from a cartoon for a while. The guy is funny as fuck.